You can repel negativity even when the world is in chaos. It all comes down to what you focus on. Your mind can only hold so much before it becomes overwhelmed. We spend so much time filling our minds with stuff we can’t control. We waste our time and our energy. Instead, try to turn your focus to those things which you can control or at least influence.
The first step is to get help. Don’t deal with deep depression alone. Reach out to your higher power and a few trusted people. After you get a support group, evaluate what’s going on in your life. Take time to answer these questions.
Answer these questions and then realize these questions need to be answered for all aspects of your life.
True happiness comes from being physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually aligned. Are you filling your mind and heart with things that no longer serve you?
There’s help 24hrs a day on the suicide hotline just dial 988
You are a valuable human being and this world needs you.
So many people want things to change, but they won’t take any action. They want things to fall in their lap. There’s a universal law called the Law of attraction. The Bible calls it you reap what you sow. You have to sow to reap. You have to plant something. That’s an action. That is something you have to do. That is a verb.
So many people pray and then sit back and do nothing. Sometimes, God requires us to take a little action. If you want life to change, you’ve got to get up and do something. The universe will take up the slack, but you have to try.
So many people want to wait until they feel ready, or someone picks them, or the time is right, or they feel capable. But this is a trap. What if none of those things happen? You’re never going to feel ready. Will you be on your deathbed and realize you are still unprepared?
If you’re waiting for some guru to come by and anoint you with your calling, you might as well forget it. It won’t happen.
You’ve got to do whatever is laid on your heart. You have to pick yourself. You’ve got to do it when you don’t feel ready and when you don’t feel capable. You got to do it anyway.
The phrase “what if” keeps many people from acting on their goals. What if I don’t do what I’m supposed to do? What if this is the wrong decision? What if I mess up? What if people laugh at me? What is this? What if that?
Instead of getting rid of the “what if” questions, why don’t you change them a bit?
What if you succeed? What if you are more than capable? What if you go farther than you could ever imagine? What if you make life better for your entire family? “What if” can be positive if you choose for it to be.
Failure isn’t a cataclysmic event. Failure is a stepping stone on the way to success. Those people who understand that will become successful. Those people who fear failure will never become successful. Henry Ford failed five times before succeeding and becoming a Ford Motor Company. Can you imagine if he gave up on the fourth try, we would never have the Ford Mustang?
You need to have the courage to take action. Have the courage to step out and face fear and move. Anyways. Have the courage to say I will persist until I succeed. Have the courage to step out and do what you’re called to do.
Humans have a hidden superpower. With it we can both create and destroy. In most people it is raw, unfiltered and troublesome. But, if we could train it and hone it to perfection, it is powerful enough to change the world.
There’s a wise old saying that says, “for as a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” What does that mean, exactly? It means you become what you think about regularly. Your consistent thoughts become your actions, and your actions change the reality around you. I know this sounds like a bunch of hoodoos, but I promise you there’s science behind it.
What if we trained our minds to create instead of to destroy? We could change the world with one mind at a time.
Everyone suffers from self-doubt and one time or another in their lives. Even some of the biggest celebrities struggle with self-doubt. But don’t worry. In this blog post, we will explore ten proven strategies that can help you overcome self-doubt, boost your confidence, and pave the way for success.
1. Awareness:
The first step in conquering self-doubt is to become aware of the patterns of negative self-talk that lead you to doubt.
2. Challenge & Replace:
Challenge the negative self-talk and ask yourself if there’s any evidence to support those belief systems. Most of the time, the answer is no. Replace the pattern of self-talk with positive, empowering phrases.
3. Celebrate Your Achievements:
Take time to celebrate all of your achievements, no matter how small. I suggest you keep a notebook or a journal nearby. Write all of your positive affirmations down, and write down all of your achievements. You can look back through it when you forget.
4. Surround Yourself with Supportive People:
They say you become like the five people closest to you. If the five people surrounding you aren’t supportive, change your crowd.
5. Don’t fear failure; redefine it:
Don’t fear failure. Embrace it. Realize that failure is nothing but a stepping stone toward success. No one is successful on the first try. We hear about overnight successes, but this is not accurate. The overnight success makes a good headline; we don’t see the five years of struggle before the overnight success.
6. Set Clear Goals:
Set clear goals that you can manage and achieve. You can never achieve a goal if you don’t know what it is. Set small goals that you can achieve and reward yourself for. While big goals are important, you want to ensure you are celebrating a few wins along the way.
7. Practice Self-Care:
Don’t forget to take care of yourself in the process. It’s too easy to take care of everyone else and forget yourself. Don’t do this. When you drop self-care from your routine, you damage your confidence levels. Self-doubt will creep in.
8. Get a coach:
A coach will encourage and inspire you along the way but still hold you accountable.
9. Visualize Success:
Visualize what it would be like to achieve your biggest goals. Hold that mental picture in your mind every day.
10. Take Action:
Procrastination will get you nowhere. Take massive action toward your goals, and you will see massive results. Take little action towards your goals, and you will see little results. The choice is up to you.
Self Doubt Sneaks up in the mind like weeds in a garden. If you don’t actively pull weeds in a garden, they will overtake your plants. Self-doubt will overtake your mental Garden if you don’t actively fight against it. Building confidence through small wins and support will help you pull out those pesky weeds of Self Doubt
Humans have a hidden superpower. With it we can both create and destroy. In most people it is raw, unfiltered and troublesome. But, if we could train it and hone it to perfection, it is powerful enough to change the world.
There’s a wise old saying that says, “for as a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” What does that mean, exactly? It means you become what you think about regularly. Your consistent thoughts become your actions, and your actions change the reality around you. I know this sounds like a bunch of hoodoos, but I promise you there’s science behind it.
What if we trained our minds to create instead of to destroy? We could change the world with one mind at a time.
I wanted to stop and give you an example of how thoughts affect your world. While I can quote all the statistics and tell you about the science, I know it will help more if I show you how it’s manifested in my life.
While I’m writing this book, my world has fallen apart. I lost 16 people that I loved within an 18-month time frame. [NO! It wasn’t anything to do with the pandemic.] That alone is difficult, but my father-in-law was the last person I lost. With his passing, our entire world has been dumped upside down and shaken like a snow globe in a toddler’s hand.
We had to sell our house, move, try to get a new house, and live with family members until the house was ready. It was a nightmare. I was doing better, though. My thoughts were doing better, but right when I started feeling like I could see the sun again, everything seemed like it was starting to crash again. I said wait a minute. What’s going on?
I stopped, looked around, and saw that much of it had come from my thought processes. I titled this the spiraling vortex of negativity to give you a visual of what negative thinking does to you. So, this morning, I stopped and asked God what was happening. I know I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing with my business. That transition was difficult, but I feel I’m on the right path now. Things are starting to settle down, or so it would seem.
Then I thought, well, what have I been focusing on? So, I sat down and made the following list. Some of them are good, and some of them are not good at all. But what binds them all together is that they are negative to the max.
Here are my results:
But I’m supposed to be the motivational guru that inspires people. Why is this happening to me? Then I look at myself in the mirror and say it’s time to turn your camera. What you focus on, you feel. Then I went back through some old videos, and I realized maybe I just need to go back and start binge-watching my own stuff instead of binge-watching all these end-time prophecies and doomsday things that are making me stressed out and fearful.
I know better. Yes, we need to know about end-time prophecies, but when you spend 100 hours a week, and that’s all you listen to, it gets depressing and makes you feel like you don’t want to push through and continue living. What’s the point if God is going to return and take us out of here in 2 days? Then what’s the point of even getting up off the couch?
I know this sounds dramatic, but if that’s all you’re focusing on, you will start to feel depressed. That’s not what God wants us to do. He wants us to understand these things so we’re not surprised. He says we’re supposed to occupy until he comes. That does not mean that we have to fret and worry and stress ourselves to death because the world’s going to hell in a handbasket. That’s God’s problem to solve, not mine. I have a hard time with that. And I have a feeling some of you do, too. It’s time we put all those big astronomical issues back into the father’s hands and leave them there. So I don’t know about you. I hope this helps you, but I know I will go back to focusing on things of a more positive nature.
Look Who’s On the Speaker’s Roster. Yours truly! I’ll be speaking at the Ozark Writer’s League (OWL) Conference on October 28th in Branson, MO.
Topic: Make Marketing a Money Making Game!
Follow this link for more information!
https://ozarkswritersleague.com/2023-Fall-Conference.php
Can a local writer build a big enough audience to attract Hollywood? I did.
Can you publish independently and build a large platform that attracts the attention of a traditional publishing house? I did.
Can an indie author make six figures a year? Yes!
This go-to guide will show you how I built a business so large that a publishing house came to me and offered to buy reprint rights to three of my books. I got the chance to tell them “no” for one of the books. I made too much money.
Have you ever been able to send a rejection letter to a publishing house? It’s a lot of fun. Trust me.
Most of us are inmates in a prison, and we don’t even know it. We wake up and move through our day without realizing or seeing the prison walls around us. We don’t see the handcuffs on our wrists or the bars on our prison cells. We have freedom of movement within this prison, so we think we are alive and making our own choices. But we are not.
The name of this prison is Comfort Zone. Stepping out of our comfort zone causes anxiety because the unknown is fearful. We become indifferent and say whatever will be will be. It sounds brave, but in reality, it is cowardice. We willingly lock ourselves into our cells every night, thinking we have no choice.
Our comfort zone may be anything but comfortable, but it’s what we’ve grown accustomed to, and we know how to handle it. We may not like it, but we at least know what to deal with daily. If someone asked us if we were happy, we would probably say yeah, but are you really happy? Probably not. You may not necessarily be depressed or suicidal, but you’re not overflowing with joy either.
Progress equals happiness; humans feel more alive and fulfilled if they’re growing and reaching their goals. Unfortunately, we grow stale as life progresses without us. We’re supposed to continue growing until the day we die. As long as there is breath within us, we’re supposed to continue. It’s not over until our last breath escapes our lips.
“Ambition unused declines. Strong feelings unused diminished. Faith unused decreases. It is a law” – Jim Rohn.
JCPenney said this at 92 when someone asked him how he was doing.
“Well, my eyesight is failing but my vision has never been better.”
Do you have a vision for your life? Do you have a purpose? You do have a purpose, but do you know what it is?
See, water is life-giving, but it also stagnates when it sits still too long. There’s an old proverb that says the plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance. The problem is that most people aren’t diligent with their plans. Or they might plan diligently but never follow through with those plans. See, there’s a universal law called you create or disintegrate.
You take an acorn and put it on a shelf. It will disintegrate and die, and the cycle of life is over. You take that same acorn, put it in good soil, water it, and let the sun shine on it, and the cycle of life will continue, and it will grow and become a tree. It will shade all sorts of animals and become a home for all kinds of species. It will also generate thousands of acorns. You see, nature will compound your efforts, but you’ve got to try. You’ve got to plant that acorn, and it will grow. But it does take some effort on your part.
“Life doesn’t get better by chance it gets better by change.” – Jim Rohn.
It’s time to break out of that prison. Step out of that comfort zone. And become what you’re supposed to be.
Is it possible to find joy again after suffering trauma? The simple answer is yes, but it’s not necessarily easy.
First, you must decide to find joy again. It won’t magically appear. You can’t go from victim to vitality unless you decide to.
Second, you can’t hide from it and act like nothing happened. You can’t force your loved ones to be happy. Happiness is internal. You have to design it yourself. Stuffing the pain will eventually manifest in your health and mental and physical health as well. You have to choose to be happy for yourself.
You must realize that you have a right to be happy again. It is okay to be happy. Sometimes, all we can do is put one foot in front of the other and repeat this mantra.
“Every day and every way, I’m getting better and better.”
– Norman Vincent Peele.
You see, deep within the recesses of our mind attic, we have this dusty old trunk that I call the trauma trunk. We like to hide it away and act like it doesn’t exist. But we have to open that trunk and sit with it. We can’t fight it or throw it away. It has been nailed down to the floor with extreme emotion. What happened was not okay. But you must be able to say I choose to be okay. We must sit with it, mourn the loss, and then detach the emotional response. Every time the lid is opened, we slowly rewrite the trauma story into a survivor story and a thriver one.
Don’t get sucked back into the trauma cycle. You see, every time we rehash the trauma, our body reacts the same way it did when it occurred. Our body goes through the same trauma cycle. Our brain sends out stress hormones to our body. Our body is filled with cortisol and adrenaline. Our organs start shutting down. The fight or flight response kicks in. Damage starts happening to our internal organs. Our cells stop reproducing. All of this happens every time we continue to rehash the trauma. So yes, talking about what happened is important, but after a certain point, we must get to where we can stop rehashing the story and move past it. Our body needs us to.
We need to learn to speak joy. Think of joy and let joy return to us. We need to stop watching depressing things. Stop listening to depressing music; for heaven’s sake, do not isolate.